Yeah, I said it!
PARENTING IS TEDIOUS!
C’mon, you all know it’s true. Yes, we adore our children. Yes, we share precious, unforgettable moments with them.
But let’s be real: those precious moments are balanced by an equal number of mind-numbingly dull interactions.
Most of our time as parents is taken up with negotiating somewhat healthy food into our children’s mouths, cleaning up after them and listening to them tell long, rambling stories that MAKE NO SENSE and HAVE NO POINT.
As a very wise (and honest) friend once said to me, the tedium of parenting comes from endless kids’ needs coming before our own.
As parents, we have to prioritize the survival of our children: clothing, feeding and getting them to school/daycare. Or just getting them through the day.
As a result, our needs come second (if at all).
I really admire those parents who can continue with their pre-kids activities with apparently as much dedication as ever. In my experience, while some things must continue (work, for instance), something always must give way in the face of our children’s needs.
I guess that is the sacrifice of parenthood.
In our family, we have each given up something in the face of parenthood. In my Chico’s case, it’s doing the sports he loves. For me, it’s been a career.
This is where the Mom-Guilt-Monster raises its ugly head.
I think: but if we don’t model self care and prioritizing of our interests to our children, how will they learn to take proper care of themselves?
I haven’t figured it out yet but I’m hoping we’ll all learn to strike a balance.
And in any case, even if we think we have everything right and we’re doing everything perfectly, I bet you our kids will grow up to complain to their therapists about us, anyway. Ha!